You’re certain there’s a better way, but lack a clear vision of what it looks like, or the path to get there.
You want to be respected in your field and maintain job security, without always being “on” or sacrificing what’s important to you.
While you desire time to pursue passion projects or hobbies, “me time” and leisure activities often take second or third place behind your work and family obligations.
You’re either killing it at work, or are a superwoman at home, but never both at the same time.
Your days and weeks are defined by a jam-packed calendar, work commitments and personal obligations that leave you feeling under pressure, overwhelmed and lacking control of your life.
2008 was a good year for me. I graduated from Georgetown University Law Center with my second law degree, got engaged to my best friend (now husband), and landed a coveted spot as a first year tax lawyer at one of the 15 largest law firms in the world. I felt like I was at the peak of having it all -- a rewarding career and a dreamy family life. I’d envision days filled with the thrill of solving complex legal issues, nights surrounded by my family (with happy hour gatherings with friends sprinkled in), and weekends pursuing personal passions and date nights with the hubby.
AND THEN THE REALITY OF WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE TO BE A WORKING WIFE AND MOTHER SMACKED ME IN THE FACE -- HARD.
By 2014, I was 6 years into my career, 5 years into marriage, had become a mother of 2, and was the breadwinner of my family. The picture of a neatly organized life I’d painted, became a blurry surrealist image where work and life had intertwined in such a way that I could no longer see the subject of the painting -- me.
I felt crushed by work demands, experienced immense mommy guilt, and stopped “dating” my husband in the way we had earlier in our marriage. And most of all, I realized that despite how lackluster I felt I’d been in all those roles, I prioritized putting everything I had into fulfilling them, at the cost of neglecting myself.
IN MY QUEST TO BE THE BEST IN MY CAREER AND SUPERWOMAN AT HOME, I’D LOST SIGHT OF ME.
One morning, in 2016, I woke up and I literally said to myself, “who am I?” Being a working mom felt like a heavy burden that was weighing me down. I was physically tired, emotionally drained, and mentally distressed. The things I enjoyed doing had been largely replaced by my growing list of responsibilities and obligations -- many self-imposed. Worst of all, I felt stuck. Quitting my job to stay at home wasn’t an option, and we were not in a position to hire outside help to reduce the load. I knew that if my marriage was going to survive, if I was going to excel in an increasingly demanding career, if I as a person was truly going to enjoy life -- I had to do something.
Today, I live a life that’s driven by my purpose, passion and values, and I'm committed to helping other working women develop their own Work-Life Success Plan. As a working woman, I know firsthand that juggling work and a personal life can be overwhelming and, at times, feel unbearable. But I've also discovered the formula that provides a path to work-life bliss. If you’re ready to win at work and at home, let’s craft your personalized Work-Life Success Plan.
Little did I know at the time, I’d created my very own Work-Life Success formula
On my quest to experience work + life satisfaction, I became hyper-intentional about aligning my work and personal life with my values. I identified five areas to focus on: faith, family, fitness, finances and fulfillment.
I spent time nurturing my faith, rebuilding with family and friends, going hard in the gym (aka my happy place), getting in touch with my mental and emotional state, becoming strategic with my finances, and engaging in activities for the sole reason of bringing me pure joy and fulfillment. The combination of these elements (along with plenty of self-reflection) helped me to blend work and life in a way that nourished me.